Have you ever felt like, if you forgive someone, you are condoning what they did? Being able to forgive is one of the biggest challenges we face…and one of our biggest barriers to experiencing joy.
I choose how I feel or react, so my anger at the other person is my own feeling and interpretation. That [...]
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Every day we get violent messages on the news, in our movies or video games, and in interaction with others. All of these messages affect us, in much the same way as small bits of litter can add together to create a real mess.
Without going into seclusion, how can we protect ourselves from this negative [...]
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Why do we tend to think things are “either—or”? Is such duality truly an illusion? We are so used to thinking in simple comparisons that we assume duality is just the nature of things. But if we look a little closer, life is more complex. Take any polar opposites and you will find that there [...]
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Have you ever noticed that anger, especially righteous indignation, is energizing? When I believe I’ve been hurt, I might even brood over the indignity, refusing to forgive, to amp up that energy. But refusing to forgive actually hurts me more than it does the other person.
Forgiveness is part of recognizing our shared humanity – that [...]
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Is it possible that violence against women is so pervasive, as a violation of human rights, that we just assume it will always continue? What would actually make a difference?
We have seen some shifts in what is and is not condoned. The media no longer says “boys will be boys” when women are battered and [...]
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Do you have a clear sense of your unique purpose in this life? Or do you feel that anything you could do you should do (a recipe for burnout)?
We can think of our shared lives as a gigantic jigsaw puzzle that we are assembling together. My piece might be part of a waterfall, while yours [...]
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